Activity that drops Divorce Rate to .1%?

21 Sep

We’ve all heard the statistics concerning the US Divorce rate. It hovers somewhere around 50%. But I’ve got good news for you. You can be part of a unique group that has dropped the divorce rate to less than 1 out of every 1105 marriages. Interested?

Lets begin by sharing some statistics. Some have said going to church makes no difference in the divorce rate among church goers. That simply not true! Couples who go to church regularly have a 1 out of 6 chance of making thier marriage work. That’s an 84% success rate. It’s good …but not amazing.

Here’s what’s amazing. Did you know that couples who pray daily together have a 99.9 % chance of staying together? Here’s the facts. Couples who pray together daily have a 1 out of 1105 chance of going through divorce. That’s right.

We may do alot of goofy things to wreak havoc on our marriages , but if we pray together regularly, we’ve got a really good chance of going the distance. That’s not just good news–that’s amazing news.

So then the question is : How do we incorporate regular prayer times with our spouses each day? Lets take an up close look at it– along with a few helpful suggestions from yours truly.

First off, let’s begin by putting a plan together! The two of you (together) can make a list of the things you can pray for each day. Things like:  protection over your home and family members, your local church and pastor, your finances, your health, your extended family, friends and neighbors, health and healing for those you love, salvation of loved ones, your employer/company, large purchases and investments, and of course–each other!

Secondly, agree on a time and place. Find a place that is comfortable and convenient for the both of you. Sitting, standing, kneeling. There’s no right way or wrong way to pray. I suggest holding hands. It’s a wonderful expression of love and commitment one to another.

Set a time limit. We are not suggesting a marathon prayer meeting each day. But each day has 96 fifteen minute segments, 144 ten minute segments and 288 five minute segments. Choose one of the above, set a time and just go for it. The way to begin something is simple: Begin.

Pray out loud. I realize that some couples are very shy. But we must remember that we are speaking to an audience of one–God himself. Your prayers don’t have to be memorized or written down. You can speak from your heart directly to God. He loves to hear his children pray. Also when you pray out loud, it makes it much easier for your spouse to agree with you and hear your heart as well.

Never force prayer upon your spouse. Try to be sensitive to his or her needs each and every day. Doing the right thing at the wrong time can actually be detrimental to your relationship. The Bible says their is a right time for everything! If your spouse is not feeling well or upset about a situation, let them cool down. You can pray when they are ready.

Never correct your spouse in prayer! Some have said prayers like ” Lord, help my spouse to be more patient and not loose their cool” or ” Lord , help my spouse not be a lazy bum and work as hard as I do.” Wrong move and wrong motive. Always be sure to build up your spouse in your prayers using encouraging words that can build them up –not tear them down.

Be sure to pray for each other. This may be the most important prayer of all. God sees us and our spouses as one unit. There is nothing more comforting than hearing your spouse pray for you and your needs. God has called us to live together in unity and harmony, and prayer is the key that keeps us bound together in love.

I would love to hear your comments! Let me know your thoughts on this matter of prayer in marriage. With 95% of ministers admitting they rarely pray with their spouse, its time for the church to wake up and pray like never before. Lord…may it begin with me and my household.

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7 Responses to “Activity that drops Divorce Rate to .1%?”

  1. Fran Bishop September 22, 2011 at 8:58 pm #

    Great advice!!

  2. Renee September 22, 2011 at 10:00 pm #

    Great article, Pastor Jim. We have found that it brings such unity to our relationship, when we ask God for help in areas that concern us both. It’s also very humbling to acknowledge that we don’t have the answer, which is a good thing in a marriage. I hope many people read this great article.

  3. Maruja Jordan September 23, 2011 at 12:23 am #

    Pastor Jim,

    That is awesome. Mark and I pray every day for different things but i just love when we pray for each other. It is just so humbling & beautiful. It made our relationship strong & secure.

    Thanks for the article.

    We miss you & Janet.

    In Christ’s love always,

    Maruja

  4. freedomthoughtsblog October 5, 2012 at 1:33 pm #

    What’s your source for those stats?

  5. Nathaniel Long March 17, 2013 at 8:52 pm #

    Will you please give the source for this study?

  6. Rob Crysler June 23, 2014 at 5:40 pm #

    The statistic on divorce (1 in 1005) comes from The Making of a Godly Man or perhaps the source that was used when it was quoted in that book. I cannot find the actual source of the statistic and I no longer have access to The Making of a Godly Man. Can you help me with the source?

  7. Harry Jones March 23, 2015 at 5:54 pm #

    Any answer to the source of 1 out of 1105 couples? It would be much appreciated.

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